“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.”- Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

When someone wrongs my husband or my children, I have an immediate, gutteral and overwhelming instinct to protect them.  I have been described as being loyal to a fault, and I’m completely ok with that.  If there is anything that I want to be remembered for while on this Earth, it is that I was loyal to those I love, and those that love me.

I’m recently being faced with a challenge of someone upsetting my husband while he is on the other side of the world, in a war zone.  Please don’t ask who or what…as that would lead to hateful gossip.   Let’s just say that someone is mad, is treating him in the most disrespectful and unloving way I can imagine, and is displacing blame for all their unacceptable behavior on yours truly.  I know this has happened to anyone and everyone I know, so a completely universal theme.

The Lioness in me wants to pounce.  I want to scratch eyes out.  I have had very, very scary thoughts and dreams.  I have not been sleeping well and am trying not to let this drama consume my life.  I do see and know there is major fall out that I cannot control. It is heartbreaking.  I have said my peace, and need to let it all go, and concentrate on the beauty of my true family and friends.  I need to focus on the exploding joy of my children, and on staying positive and upbeat for my husband.

This isn’t easy for me.  As angry as I am, I love people, and have forgiveness and compassion for certain people even when someone may judge they don’t deserve it.  So what do I do now?  How do I protect the pride from the predators?  Well, I think I’ll listen to Tolstoy.  It is time to unleash the inner, quiet, powerful warrior.  She doesn’t react, defend, or speak.  She remains still.  She remains quiet.  She lets patience and time work their magic.



  1. Elizabeth said,

    May 19, 2010 at 6:03 am

    you made me think of a great quote I heard once, ‘Never react, always respond.’

  2. Carole Stoltenberg said,

    May 19, 2010 at 6:34 am

    Bravo Heather! Wise counsel and beautifully written.

  3. Anissa said,

    May 19, 2010 at 7:10 am

    Some people were not fans of mine and when Meredith was born, the message they left on our voice mail said, “It feels more like a death in the family than a birth.”

    Four years later… I have a better relationship with these people than my own family and love them so much. They now “get it” and couldn’t be better to my kids, my husband and myself!

    Quiet strength and time will work. Forgiveness is easy when real change is demonstrated. It isn’t easy… but well worth it!

  4. liz said,

    May 25, 2010 at 9:37 am

    Good for you for finding the strength to rise above the ugliness and to count your blessings. The world needs its lionesses!!!!!

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